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“Drop the Ball: to release unrealistic expectations of doing it all and engage others to achieve what matters most to us, deepening our relationships and enriching our lives.”

– Tiffany Dufu, author of Drop the Ball: Achieving More by Doing Less

Making a decision to drop the ball

It’s been over 3 months since I last sent a newsletter. It’s not the only thing I’ve dropped the ball on lately.

The last few months have been filled with planned and unplanned events. And most recently, my life changed practically overnight.

These expected and unexpected life changes have forced me to get clear on where I spend my time. And it’s been an interesting observation to see how certain life situations force you to think differently on time and money.

But that’s not to say the process of making decisions hasn’t been a difficult, emotional ride. Guilt, fear of regret, and disappointment are some of the emotions we try to avoid when making hard decisions. And if you’re a highly sensitive person, feeling these emotions can be anxiety-inducing.

A few days ago, I made a hard decision to drop the ball on an upcoming workshop I had committed to hosting.

I went through every scenario in my head on how to make it work. But when I got honest with myself, I knew there was no way I could pull it off. This wasn’t about being a perfectionist, it was about following my own set of standards of work. In my heart, I knew I wasn’t in a position to deliver work that met my expectations.

It was tough, but I was incredibly thankful for the compassion and understanding given for the need to “drop the ball.” I wasn’t expecting it whatsoever, but I’m grateful to have received it. But it still felt a great sense of disappointment because I still wanted to make it work.

BUT! the feeling of disappointment subsided and now I feel more relieved than anything. My mind feels a little less heavy too.

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Have you ever had to cancel plans or a project because of unexpected circumstances? How did it make you feel and what happened after you made the decision?

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Sara Brush is the co-creator of Centering Boards, a mindful art and wellness company, and a certified Institute for Integrative Nutrition Health Coach and a licensed Desire Map & Heart Centered Facilitator.

In this episode, Sara and I discuss what it’s like to discover your sensitive trait, her experience with overcoming burnout, the importance of getting to the root of your desires, and why employee wellness is so important in today’s workplace.

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EP13: Emotional Intelligence as a Tool with Ali Joseph

Known as The Virtual Solutionist, Ali Joseph helps small business owners and entrepreneurs get organized and build efficient workflows.

Ali has a knack for helping her clients identify tools, resources, and workflows to develop administration management systems based on her clients’ needs. But she also knows how to bring the human element into the way we run our businesses.

When it comes to providing value for her clients, she starts with asking all the right questions like: How will the tools help her clients provide better service to their clients? and, How can you create a client onboarding process that’s cost-effective and builds trust?

In this episode, Ali shares some great insight for sensitive business owners.

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Listen to Shauna and I discuss our personal experiences recognizing our sensitivity and how we learned to use our sensitivity as a guiding star in life.

After experiencing trauma and challenges at a young age, we learned that sensitivity wasn’t a burden after all but a gift. Caution ⚠️ both of us get real and don’t hold anything back.

“You have to believe the answers are within you. That is the most important thing. Once you know, you can start trusting yourself more.” - Shannon Callarman, featured on S2 Ep5 of Just Being.

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